So now that I have accepted that she is a toddler, I have also accepted that she will not be "caught up" by two and most likely by three either. But thats all ok. The progression of her development has always been very cyclical for me. The stages are :
Worry - I spend too much time scrutinizing her skills compared to her peers. I know better... comparing kids never ends well.
Anxious- I will notice progress but the process of the progress drives me crazy. I know better ... its her schedule not mine.
Proud- I finally recognize her progress and how amazing she is and spend some time just marveling at her and her latest accomplishment.
Annoyed- As I linger in the proud stage, I find that everyone else is moving on to the next skill or the next thing that she may be delayed in. Annoyed and feeling like others just come stomping over our confetti I quickly get thrust back into the worry stage.
Whether it was vent weaning or crawling ; bottle feeding or walking - I haven't been able to break the cycle. One of these days I will get "caught up" and learn how to temper the worry, anxious and annoyed and how make that proud stage extra special.